Many of us have negative thoughts, sometimes frequently. When we think like this, our confidence, mood and outlook can become negative, too.
The problem with negative thoughts is that they can become self-fulfilling prophecies. We talk ourselves into believing that we're not good enough. And, as a result, these thoughts drag down our personal lives, our relationships, and our careers.
But, if we deliberately do the opposite and use positive thoughts about ourselves, the effect can be just as powerful but far more helpful.
How to Write an Affirmation
Affirmations usually target a specific area, behavior or belief that you're struggling with. The following points can help you to write the affirmation that best fits your needs.
Think about the areas of your life that you'd like to change.
For instance, do you wish that you had more patience? Or deeper relationships with your friends and colleagues? Or would you like a more productive workday? Write down several areas or behaviors that you'd like to work on. Be sure that they are compatible with your core values. and the things that most matter to you, so that you'll feel motivated to achieve them.
Be sure that your affirmation is realistic.
Base it on a realistic assessment of the facts. For instance, imagine that you're unhappy with the level of pay that you currently receive. You could use affirmations to raise your confidence to ask for a raise.
However, it probably wouldn't be wise to affirm to yourself that you're going to double your salary. Keep it realistic! After all, affirmations are not magic spells – if you can't believe in them, it's unlikely they'll impact your life.
Turn negatives into positives.
If you are struggling with negative self-talk, note down the persistent thoughts or beliefs that are bothering you. Then choose an affirmation that is the opposite of that thought and belief.
For example, if you habitually think, "I'm not talented enough to progress in my career," turn this around and write a positive affirmation such as, "I am a skilled and experienced professional."
Write your affirmation in the present tense.
Write and speak your affirmation as if it's already happening. This helps you to believe that the statement is true right now.
For instance, "I am well-prepared and well-rehearsed, and I can give a great presentation" would be a great affirmation to use if you feel nervous speaking in front of a group.
Say it with feeling.
Affirmations can be more effective when they carry emotional weight. You need to want this change to happen, so every affirmation that you choose to repeat should be a phrase that's meaningful to you.
For example, if you're worried about a new project that you've been tasked with, you could tell yourself, "I am really excited to take on new challenges."
These affirmations will change your life
Here below are some of the most powerful affirmations. Of course you have to chose the affirmation that best fits your needs.
- I am successful.
- I am confident.
- I am powerful.
- I am strong.
- I am getting better and better every day.
- All I need is within me right now.
- I am open to new and wonderful challenges.
- I forgive everyone in my past for all perceived wrongs.
- I deserve the best, and I accept it now.
- I am in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing.
- I believe in my dreams. I believe in myself and all that I am.
- My life has meaning. My actions are meaningful and inspiring.
- I am doing my best every day.
- I love myself for who I am.
- I am not pushed by my problems; I am led by my dreams.
- I am in charge of my own happiness.
- I accept 100% responsibility for my own life.
- I am grateful for every day.
- I am grateful for everything I have in my life.
- I am independent and self-sufficient.
- I can be whatever I want to be.
- I am not defined my by past; I am driven by my future.
- I use obstacles to motivate me to learn and grow.
- Today will be a productive day.
- I am getting healthier every day.
- Each and every day, I am getting closer to achieving my goals.
- Happiness is a choice, and today I choose to be happy.
Affirmations are positive remarks that can assist you overcome negative ideas that are undermining your progress. To begin using affirmations, consider what ideas or habits you'd like to modify in your own life and work.
Next, come up with affirmation statements that are the opposite of these beliefs that are positive, credible, and feasible. Affirmations should be repeated numerous times a day, especially if you find yourself engaged in negative self-talk or negative conduct.
Remember that affirmations work best when combined with other techniques such as visualization and goal-setting.
“When you feel inner calmness, it just feels beautiful. Well, that feeling is you! That beauty is not somewhere else, with another person—it’s inside you. And all you had to do was relax so that you could perceive it.”